Shelley Malil Crazy Attack of Jealousy

Shelley Malil went crazy with jealousy: The 43-year old actor was arrested in Oceanside, California.The pair had reportedly just recently broken up and it is still unclear as to what sparked the alleged attack, although some have said Shelly saw his ex-girlfriend with her new boyfriend. The ex-girlfriend was said to be in critical condition and is in the hospital with multiple stab wounds. This attack was allegedly committed in view of their children.

Is jealousy killing you and your relationships?

Nothing can kill a healthy relationship quicker than jealousy. Jealousy eats away at a relationship and can affect every aspect of your life. Your home life, your work, your interactions with friends, associates and even totals strangers.

Follow these steps to stop jealousy:

1. Love yourself. Insecurity breeds jealousy. When you don’t feel good about you, it’s hard to believe that someone else could. You project these doubts onto your partner, and then you become suspicious.
 
2. Drop your baggage. Heal your wounds. If you have been hurt or cheated on previously. Forgive them and move on. Let go of the past before it ruins your present relationship.
 
3. Trust yourself. Have confidence in your ability to choose a partner who wouldn’t deliberately hurt you. Have faith that you can handle whatever happens. Relationships involve risk. You may get hurt, but you will survive.
 
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. The sum total of who you are is what makes you special.
 
5. Focus on what is happening and not what might happen. Jealousy is often the fear of something that hasn’t even happened. You have no foundation for these thoughts other than your insecurities.

6. Trust your partner. If you constantly fear that your partner will leave or cheat, you will drive away the person you love. Jealousy makes you controlling, manipulative and very unattractive.

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist