From the monthly archives:

December 2008

Why Am I Single?

by Dawn Pugh

Let me ask you to think about the word “Freemale”. What does the word “Freemale” mean to you? To me the word “Freemale” means Independent people who much prefer their freedom to the demands of a relationship and family.The National Statistical Systems, states that eight per cent of men and women aged 25 to 44 now live alone. With divorce rates continuing to rise, the escalating “freemale” population comes as no surprise. As you read on you will gain a clearer understanding of this subject. They predict that single-occupancy homes will become one of the major trends of the next decade, making up 70 per cent of the growth of households by 2026.

I know you’re thinking it is probably a combination of work, a busy social life and gym workouts or sports activities, mean that many feel they have little time to share with a love interest. Are you beginning to realize?

Marriage counsellors and Marriage therapist often state that many people have become cynical about how viable long-term relationships actually are because people have seen lots of them break down. If you are like me then you may still have faith in close loving relationships even though we don’t see much of the positive side of commitment these days with the media seeming to hound and expose relationships that end badly. Okay, you’re probably thinking did they even cause the relationship to end. Caring for someone and having someone else who cares about you can mean more than anything. Studies show that there are great benefits from being in a long-term relationship, including better health, longer life, higher income and better outcomes for children.

Now keep in mind however, that some people’s experiences are vastly different and constant arguments, abuse, jealousies and insecurities prevail. A bad relationship can have very negative effects, including causing high levels of stress for men and women, depression and poor physical health.

All relationships are different and to say you experience a bad relationship once does not necessarily mean you will experience that again. Lots of ‘second time around’ relationships prove to be extremly loving and happy.

Learning from the failed relationship can make all the difference. Talking to a marriage therapsit / counselor can help you to develop.

If you remain resentful or harbour regrets and do not learn from your experience then you may see relationships as demanding, irrelevant, emotionally high-risk and a lot of hard work. Giving off all the wrong signals.

Let me ask you to tell me what this information meant to you.

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist

 

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Let me ask you this question: “What does Christmas, 25 December mean to you?”

For your entertainment I have put together some amusing phrases from famous people. Enjoy.

And So This Is Christmas; And What Have We Done? Another Year Over;
A New One Just Begun; And So Happy Christmas; I Hope You Have Fun;
The Near And The Dear Ones; The Old And The Young”.
Source: John Lennon.

“Do they still make wooden Christmas Trees?”

Source: Charles Schulz, Linus Van Pelt in Peanuts

“The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree is the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other”.

Source: Burton Hillis

“Maybe Christmas,” he thought, “doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas… perhaps… means a little a bit more”

Source: Dr. Seuss

“At Christmas play, and make good cheer, For Christmas comes but once a year”.
Source: Thomas Tusser, The Farmer’s Daily Diet, 1557

And finally in the words of Bart Simpson:

“Christmas is a time when people of all religions come together to worship Jesus Christ”. (LOL)

With love and appreciation at Christmastime and always. Thank you.

HAPPY CHRISTMAS and a PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR!!!

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist

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Anxiety and Christmas; Can Christmas Actually Cause Anxiety?

December 23, 2008

Think for a moment about the words Anxiety and Christmas…What do these words mean to you?  Can Christmas actually cause Anxiety?  Christmas may be a busy time for most of us but do you really know what causes Anxiety?
Let me ask you if you think that Christmas holidays are supposed to be a time full [...]

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Stress and Christmas; Can Christmas Actually Cause Stress

December 18, 2008

Stress and Christmas: The Christmas festivities are a busy time for most of us; Imagine for a moment a stress free Christmas…Christmas may actually cause our stress levels to rise but in fact it is our reaction to aspects of Christmas that result in feeling more stressed out than usual. As you continue to read this [...]

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How to Beat those Sad days and Sad Nights

December 16, 2008

Imagine what it would be like if we did not experience seasonal affective disorders. Just suppose our seasonal light changes never occurred. I know you’re thinking that this is ridiculous and that this would never happen…But just imagine for a moment, how different you would feel if you did not suffer sad days and sad nights…
Well, as you [...]

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Sex Mad “Symptoms Addiction”

December 11, 2008

Some time ago I did a post about sex addiction and posed some very probing questions. Here are some more followed by more information. As you read this article you will gain a better understanding of this varied and sensitive subject.
The fact that you decided to read this article tells me you have an interest [...]

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Christmas Suicide Rates

December 9, 2008

Christmas suicide rates. What does this information mean to you? The fact that you decided to read this article means that you are interested in christmas suicide statistics. As you continue reading you will develop a clearer understanding.
Let me ask you, do you think people commit suicide more at Christmas, thanks giving and New Year?
Just think about it. [...]

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Do You Play the Blame Game?

December 4, 2008

The blame game is another effective way to ruin our relationships.

The blame game is played by people who jump upon the slightest of mistakes and cause arguments over them.

Another way the blame game can take over is when we do something wrong and then find a way to blame our partners. [...]

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Random Life Thoughts

December 2, 2008

Random life thoughts can be difficult to control. We feel we have no power over our intrusive thoughts. Our thought process is made up of a multitude of positive thoughts and negative thoughts.
Often we choose to see thoughts as simply intangible, they come and they go. We see no danger in this innate behavior. After [...]

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