The blame game is another effective way to ruin our relationships.
The blame game is played by people who jump upon the slightest of mistakes and cause arguments over them.
Another way the blame game can take over is when we do something wrong and then find a way to blame our partners.
“That wouldn’t have happened if it hadn’t have been for you……..” Does this sound familiar?
At the beginning of a relationship everything is “ours”. It is neither ‘yours’ nor ‘mine’, the cracks start to appear when ‘ours’ become ‘me and you’ or ‘mine and yours’ this gives rise to the beginning of the blame game.
Why do we blame somebody else?
Sometimes the other person is responsible for what might have gone wrong, and sometimes, we find the other person a easy target to release our frustration.
What are the costs and benefits of your relationship?
Is the relationship causing more pain than pleasure?
Are you staying with each other so you can blame someone for your failures?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions then maybe you and your partner would like to consider seeking out a marriage counselor or marriage therapist.
It can be very productive to work together and accept joint responsibilities.
Choosing to try and solve your problems and issues can be of great benefit to the relationship instead of scoring points over each other.
