Four Good Reasons why Trauma Treatment Therapy is Crucial when we experience Traumatic Events.

1. We need to express and process our strong emotions, if we are not allowed to do so, we learn to  repress these feelings and they can erupt years later, distorted and causing great confusion.

2. The ability to process these emotions can prevent difficulties in later life. Whereby we can struggle with daily functioning. Often feeling inundated and incapacitated.

3. Many people who have repressed their experiences and feelings, often find great difficulty in moving on, they become more likely to self harm, take drugs and or alcohol. They may turn to these substances in order to escape and numb their difficult, painful emotions.

4. Stomach problems (IBS), anxiety and panic attacks, exhaustion, and memory loss problems are physical manifestations of emotional stress.

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist

These articles stress management hopefully will offer some guidance in helping you to understand why we can get stressed and help us in, how to prevent stress over-load, fundamentally to manage our stress better. Stress comes in variable factors and differing degrees. Stress in the workplace, dealing with holiday stress.We can become stressed about our stress.

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What is Stress?

Stress has almost become an unavoidable part of modern life. Unless you quit your job or drop out of school, cut all relationship ties, and decide to live in a cave out in the wilds, chances are you are going to have to deal with one kind of stress or another on a daily basis.

A little stress is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, without it, most people would not feel the urge to get things done, achieve new things, or accomplish their goals, it can give us motivation. It is when; stress gets out of control that the real trouble begins.

Stress is your body’s way of dealing with the outside dangers and challenges life can throw your way.

If you are walking down a dark, deserted street, your body will release hormones and chemicals that will make you more alert to your surroundings, and ready to flee to safety at a moment’s notice. This is called ‘The Fight or Flight Syndrome’ and is a human trait which has been around since neathanderthall man. 

Similarly if you have an important project due in the morning, and you are going to have to stay up all night to finish it, the same chemicals and hormones will keep you awake and alert, they give you the extra boost you need to work faster.

In certain situations, a little stress is okay.

The theory of stress is that we are not in control. So firstly we need to evaluate what we can take control over and what we cannot. We need to learn how to manage our Stress.

There will be other articles on stress management.

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT theory, CBT techniques, CBT Therapist work from a premise that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings influence our behavior. CBT for depression. CBT for anxiety even CBT for severe mental health issues. Some can access online CBT courses, which offers computerised CBT. Click on the link and watch a training video that shows an example of CBT in action.

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/therapies/cognitivebehaviouraltherapy.aspx

Depressed wife, Unhappy husband

Many people who struggle with depression respond well to cognitive-behavioral therapy. You might also find it helpful to take a look at the book, “Feeling Good”, by David D. Burns, MD Dr. Burns’ website is http://www.feelinggood.com. …

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Value Questioned In UK Study

A new revision of clinical guidelines to help doctors manage patients with depression has challenged the rationale behind the UK government’s policy of rolling out of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for milder depression. …

In order for any therapy to be effective the patient has to be committed to regular sessions and complete any kind of homework that might be set by the therapist.

Dawn Pugh Psychotherapist

Emotional Freedom Technique is a simple acupressure technique for releasing negative feelings.

You feel negative feelings in the body, so you have to go to the body to work on them.

You can release a negative feeling right now with this video. If you feel like getting angry is a problem for you, this video can help you.

Anger Management with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

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“Critical Incident Stress Management” enables emergency workers to cope with the trauma and stress’s that their professions may cause and to help them function healthier and also, to move on with their lives. “Critical Incident Stress Management” is not  counseling or psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for these therapies. It offers emergency workers the opportunity to off- load how they feel about the situations that they have just experienced and whether they are having difficulties coping or not, it can be very beneficial for their state of minds.  Making them aware of what they can do to help themselves and help each other. The fundamental  point of  ”Critical Incident Stress Management” it is to help people understand that their reaction and experiences are normal.

Developed in the 1970s,  “Critical Incident Stress Management” is now being used in schools, communities and organizations outside of the emergency services.

What is Critical Incident Stress Management Training?

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Critical Incident Stress Management

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Whether it’s recent deaths or past deaths, when a loved one commits suicide, relatives, spouses even friends experience a  roller coaster of emotions including grief, guilt, and depression and we can fluctuate between all of these for some time. Research have indicated that some family survivors may have particularly difficult grief reactions (complicated grief) and that counseling can be useful for the treatment of blame, shame, loss and anger which are all symptoms of grief.

Dutch Psychologists recently discovered a grief counseling program for families bereaved by suicide did not necessarily reduce grief or depression, but may help to prevent perceptions of blame among close relatives and spouses. This research is not conclusive and therefore I would state that the effectiveness of counseling is by individual choice.

Counseling had no beneficial effect on complicated grief, suicidal ideation or depression. However, after adjusting for several factors, the researchers did see a trend towards reduced perceptions of being to blame and fewer maladaptive grief reactions in the counseling group compared to the usual care group.

The authors suggest that having a chance in counseling to inform relatives of the psychiatric context in which suicide usually occurs, and reflect on and acknowledge their loved one’s difficulties before the suicide, may have helped relatives to realize that they did nothing wrong, or that they did all they possibly could do.

 I will say it again “This research is not conclusive and therefore I would state that counseling efficacy is by individual choice”.

Dawn Pugh

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What is an Argument?  Argument definition: Is a discussion involving conflicting points of view. Deductive Arguments:  if valid, the conclusion follows by necessity. Persuasive Argument: Where the one person or group benefits at the cost of the other. Inductive Argument: If strong, the conclusion is, at best, probably true.

Years of marriage counseling/ Relationship counseling and a successfull second marriage have convinced me that couples do not need to Argue; they need to discuss. Couples need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to agree to disagree. Arguments are destructive, a dynamic that does not help a discussion. Although relationships do need to breath, sweat and grow to develop just like any other kind of living organism.

If you have energy to create a scene, you have more than enough energy to keep it civilized and productive by having a discussion instead. However, because social expectations and learnt behaviors are so strong, many of my clients want rules for healthy discussions  Here are some rules that may be helpful.

Argument Rules:

 1. Remember the point of the fight is to reach a solution and make-up, not to win, be right, or make your partner wrong. In the middle of a fight try saying “OK your right I’m wrong” (Edward De Bono)

 2. Do not try to read their minds. Ask instead what he or she is thinking. As one person thinks one thing, the other thinks another and guess what? Your both wrong. Practise Open, Honest, Communication.

3.Do not Dredge! Do not bring up previous problems that may or may not relate to this one. Leave the past in the past; keep to the current problem. Solve one thing at a time.

 4.Keep it simple. State your problem clearly, suggest some alternatives, and try to choose a solution together. Compromise.

5.Do not talk over each other. Do not talk too much at once. Keep your statements to two or three sentences. Your partner will not be able to grasp more than that.

I will convey more hints, tips and secrets to healthy arguing in subsequent posts.

Dawn Pugh

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Maybe you can remember Wimbledon coverage and jon mcenroe many explosive anger outbursts. He coined the catchphrase “You cannot be serious!” Which was directed toward an umpire during a match at Wimbledon in 1981. I remember watching Wimbledon in disbelief as this sportsman behaved very aggressively in front of thousands of viewers. Whatever your opinions are on this topic lots of people found it was both embarrassing and entertaining.

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The one time angry John McEnroe has volunteered to give Andy Murray some anger management training during Wimbledon.

As the player who entertained us with his outbursts and aggressive on-court behavior three decades ago, a now-reformed McEnroe has offered to advise Scotland’s world number 11.

“He probably should give me a call and I might be able to help,” McEnroe told British media.

The American claimed that his famed anger and rages at umpire was “positive” while that of Murray “bring negativity. He does need to figure out a way to use his feelings more positively.”

Murray’s trademark loud swearing on court at hot moments has not gone unnoticed, but the 21-year-old says he won’t be changing a thing to please the public.

Murray is apparently feeling the weight of the nation on his shoulder as the lone British hope for even a second-week showing at Wimbledon

McEnroe said he would be keen to have a fatherly chat with Murray. “I would talk to him about it although I have a son older than him so maybe there’s a generation gap”.

Dawn Pugh

REBT or Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy was originally founded by Albert Ellis. Basically a process of a rational theory. Rationalising our thinking. Click on the link and watch a video by Jeffrey explaining and demonstrating the process of REBT.

Albert Ellis 27.09.1913 –died 24.07.2007 an American psychologist who in 1955 developed REBT Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. He held M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Columbia University and founded and was the president and president emeritus of the New York City-based Albert Ellis Institute. He is generally considered to be the grandfather of cognitive behavioral therapies and, based on a 1982 professional survey of U.S. and Canadian psychologists, was considered as one of the most influential psychotherapists in history.

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Effective conflict management or anger management, derives from a good conflict management method. A productive conflict management approach is to empower people to deal with the conflict or anger immediately resulting in effective resolution. 

Watch this video and tell me if you have ever thought or even reacted like this?

Office Worker Breakdown

This is the same video footage but from a different angle. Sureal!!

One of America’s leading providers of anger and conflict management services, Carlos Todd, is featured in the June 2008 issue of ‘Real Simple’ – a popular publication of Time Inc. This is a Must Read.

In this issue, which is available online and on newsstands now, Carlos Todd provides advice on dealing with anger in everyday situations. Conflict and anger are natural  everyday states that we learn to handle appropriately..
The feature, “16 Ways to Manage Your Anger” provides realistic examples of situations that people find themselves in during the run of a normal day. Carlos Todd, and other anger management professionals, weigh in on what our words and reactions mean, how they can affect others and ourselves, and how to best deal with situations that induce anger or conflict.

Carlos Todd is the founder and president of Conflict Coaching and Consulting, PLLC. As the leading provider of anger management and conflict coaching east of the Mississippi, Conflict Coaching and Consulting.

Conflict Management Tips for Managers

But when the conflict happens at work, the walk away option is suddenly taken away. Of course you can walk away from the immediate situation, but the option to never work it out is not a realistic one. So when conflict arises, …

Managing Conflict

Conflict Management. Over the past few weeks at People Vision we have had a number of requests for training on “Managing Conflict” at work. In response we thought we would share our top 5 tips to managing conflict: …

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