Could Cosmetic Surgery Cost You, Your Marriage?
October 20, 2008
Could cosmetic surgery cost you, your marriage? Plastic surgery breast implants, a cosmetic procedure, that is a costly act and one that could cost more than you bargained for. Apart from the financial expenditure, reports say that the cost of cosmetic surgery especially, plastic surgery breast implants, could lead to a marital breakdown.
Specialist law firms claim that the most commonly cited signs of infidelity (within women) was a sudden devotion and concern with how the woman looks: Wrinkles, breast size or shape, waist-line etc…
Naturally for a woman, her breasts will eventually head south, she may consider having plastic surgery breast implants. Does it seriously mean she is having an affair?
So where does this line of reasoning leave Peter Andre, who allegedly encouraged his wife Katie Price (aka Jordan) to have plastic surgery breast implants to reduce the size of her boobs?
Husbands apparently feel that a wife who has improved her looks with surgery can not possibly still find him attractive. Jealousy and suspicions can creep in: surely there must be someone else.
Cosmetic surgery is no longer the well kept secret of a few. Most recent figures show that breast enlargement remains the most common procedure for women.
Meanwhile, husbands should relax, it’s mostly a win-win situation. Women are having surgery mostly for their own sakes, which includes feeling sexier with their chosen partner.
Unless of course there are other issues that lie under the surface, one’s that are avoided at all cost. That is, until it is too late.
Body and Self Image
September 8, 2008
Body and Self image are extremley important to our culture today. Weight loss anorexia, anorexic women, anorexic girls, anorexic men. Anorexic research shows that anorexia affects everybody:
The film is called Beauty Mark and is being shown today at the University of Colorado as part of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Israel is seeking a distributor to take the movie national. …
“Beauty Mark” is for anyone who has ever felt they didn’t conform to our culture’s impossible, unhealthy and abnormal beauty standards. Through the eyes of a psychotherapist and former triathlete Diane Israel. This film examines our culture’s toxic emphasis on weight. She tells her own story while interviewing others about their experiences relating to self image.
A deeply personal and funny film that probes some tough questions:
How do our families influence our relationships with our own bodies?
How do popular culture “standards” get inside of our hearts and heads?
In what ways can sports actually make us sicker instead of healthier?
Former champion athletes, including David Scott, Ellen Hart Pena and Brenda Maller share their stories while notable luminaries such as playwright Eve Ensler, author Paul Campos and cultural critic Naomi Wolf provide their insights.
On Sunday, we watched Beauty.Mark, a must-see film by former elite triathlete Diane Israel. About ten years ago, I went to a cool body/mind/sport camp called Women’s Quest, where Diane was a coach. I remember her bringing up her body …
An elite runner and triathlete until age 28, Israel won the Pikes Peak Marathon and several other major races after settling in Colorado in the early 1980s. She retired from competition after collapsing from anorexia (sometimes called “athletic bulimia,” a disorder many athletes suffer from, but which few experts knew anything about at that time). Israel went back to school to become a psychotherapist and is now a professor of human development at Naropa University, a counselor and the co-owner of a women’s fitness center. She continues to run, but strives to live her life at a less frantic pace.
Diane Israel explores redefining beauty in tell-all documentary
Challenging the way society views beauty is to rewrite the deeply engraved ideologies of chiseled abs, curvy hips and puffy lips. With a new tell-all documentary called “Beauty Mark,” and a bag full of rocks, Diane Israel said she is up …
Low Esteem
August 15, 2008
Low esteem or low self esteem can mean lack of self confidence. Low esteem can affect confidence building confidence does improve what we think of ourselves but there is rather more to low esteem than that. People with low esteem suffer low esteem symptoms, low self worth or self value and do not like themselves very much. The key is raising low esteem and fundamentally achieving self improvement. We can do this by numerous means: Psychotherapy, Counseling, Hypnotherapy, life coaching etc… Alas! most therapist have waiting lists, so…
A good way to take action in changing your low esteem RIGHT NOW, is to invest in a self help E-book: I have found some very effective E-books for your perusal, you will explore them and choose one which best suits your needs.
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Many people in the public eye fall into this category. Actors, comedians and singers in particular can glow with assurance and confidence on stage, yet off-stage feel desperately insecure and depressed they all suffer with low esteem.
You can begin by accepting that you are certainly not alone, lots of people all over the world have this problem.
Think of the late Princess of Wales or Marilyn Monroe and you’ll see that public adulation is no guarantee of high esteem.
You are a one off. A unique individual. Nature has made you the way that you are. So you should accept that you’re important, and that you have as much right as anyone else to be on this planet?
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The word ‘esteem’ comes from a Latin word that means ‘to estimate’. Self esteem is how you estimate yourself.
People with poor or low esteem often fail to give themselves enough time and space.
Give your self 10 minutes every day to be alone, and to just sit and do nothing.
Start to think of yourself as someone who has rights, opinions and ideas that are just as valid as anyone Else’s.
If you’re seriously lacking in self-esteem this could take weeks, but persevere.
This will help you to improve your self esteem.
Let me know how you get on…I am interested and I would like to help.
Shelley Malil Crazy Attack of Jealousy
August 12, 2008
Shelley Malil went crazy with jealousy: The 43-year old actor was arrested in Oceanside, California.The pair had reportedly just recently broken up and it is still unclear as to what sparked the alleged attack, although some have said Shelly saw his ex-girlfriend with her new boyfriend. The ex-girlfriend was said to be in critical condition and is in the hospital with multiple stab wounds. This attack was allegedly committed in view of their children.
Is jealousy killing you and your relationships?
Nothing can kill a healthy relationship quicker than jealousy. Jealousy eats away at a relationship and can affect every aspect of your life. Your home life, your work, your interactions with friends, associates and even totals strangers.
Follow these steps to stop jealousy:
1. Love yourself. Insecurity breeds jealousy. When you don’t feel good about you, it’s hard to believe that someone else could. You project these doubts onto your partner, and then you become suspicious.
2. Drop your baggage. Heal your wounds. If you have been hurt or cheated on previously. Forgive them and move on. Let go of the past before it ruins your present relationship.
3. Trust yourself. Have confidence in your ability to choose a partner who wouldn’t deliberately hurt you. Have faith that you can handle whatever happens. Relationships involve risk. You may get hurt, but you will survive.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. The sum total of who you are is what makes you special.
5. Focus on what is happening and not what might happen. Jealousy is often the fear of something that hasn’t even happened. You have no foundation for these thoughts other than your insecurities.
6. Trust your partner. If you constantly fear that your partner will leave or cheat, you will drive away the person you love. Jealousy makes you controlling, manipulative and very unattractive.
‘What is CBT’ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
August 6, 2008
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT theory, CBT techniques, CBT Therapist work from a premise that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings influence our behavior. CBT for depression. CBT for anxiety even CBT for severe mental health issues. Some can access online CBT courses, which offers computerised CBT. Click on the link and watch a training video that shows an example of CBT in action.
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/therapies/cognitivebehaviouraltherapy.aspx
Depressed wife, Unhappy husband
Many people who struggle with depression respond well to cognitive-behavioral therapy. You might also find it helpful to take a look at the book, “Feeling Good”, by David D. Burns, MD Dr. Burns’ website is http://www.feelinggood.com. …
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Value Questioned In UK Study
A new revision of clinical guidelines to help doctors manage patients with depression has challenged the rationale behind the UK government’s policy of rolling out of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for milder depression. …
In order for any therapy to be effective the patient has to be committed to regular sessions and complete any kind of homework that might be set by the therapist.
Your Body will Change
July 29, 2008
Some people think Change your Body, Change your Life. When in fact Change your Mind, Change your Body and by this I mean Change your Attitude toward your Body. Changes in your body happen naturally as we get older. Sadly, the only control over Changes in your body, is either exercise or plastic surgery.
Summer time is here and some of us “dare to bare” but for some this can be the worst season of all. Lots of people are very un-happy with their body images.
When people decide to radically change their bodies, the changes are unexpected and there is an actual grieving process that takes place.
“I think that people just do not realize how much just a little change can really change the whole overall picture. So when they look in the mirror they do not look like themselves anymore and that could be very disturbing, There is a self consciousness that comes up and a sense of not being who they are,” said psychotherapist Kathy Kater who specializes in body image disorders. (Body dysmorphic.)
The American Society of Plastic Surgeons recommends asking important questions before you go under the knife:
Do I like myself?
Do I think I’m a good human being?
Am I someone deserving of love?
Do I deserve happiness?
Do I feel deep down that I’m an okay person?
People with low self-esteem find it hard to answer yes to these questions. Perhaps you are one of them. If so, maybe you might want to reconsider your decision to have plastic surgery. Work through these feelings of Low Self Esteem (LSE) then if you still feel the need for change then go ahead.
Are “You On a Diet”?
July 25, 2008
“You on a diet”,or searching to find the “best life diet” then raise your awareness and read this article because there are some rapid “fat smash diet” which come under the title of ”Natural Alternative therapies” which incidentally, can cause head injury, Symptoms of vomiting and dizziness can result in epileptic fits and you may receive permanent head injury symptoms.
“A British lady won more than £1,600,000 in damages this week after she claimed a detox diet caused her radical brain injuries and epilepsy. A nutritionist gave her a diet which featured drinking 4 extra pints of water daily and instructed her to reduce her salt intake. This so- called “Amazing Hydration Diet” resulted in the lady suffering a massive epileptic fit, doctors were unable to stop permanent brain damage.”
We are now recognizing the value of “Natural Alternative therapies”, as therapy alternatives: including osteopathy and acupuncture, which is used extensively throughout the medical world.
Massage is said to help to reduce blood pressure.
We are told, The Queen of England regularly uses Aromatherapy, even Prince Charles is said to use homeopathy.
Over the last few years ‘The British Government’ has decided that doctors in the UK must face annual tests to determine their competence, and reapply to renew their licences every five years.
I think that the same restrictions, codes of practice and monitoring of efficacy should be applied and adopted by Alternative and Holistic therapists, adequate insurances for professional liability, in case there is a need for cover and to protect against any kind of litigation.
In my opinion any conscientious therapist would want to adhere to this.
Ivan Lattimore Abuse
July 9, 2008
Ivan Lattimore & Julie Donaldson
Julie Donaldson’s testimony in court stated that she has suffered abuse at the hands of her boyfriend Ivan Lattimore on a regular basis. According to the Boston Globe Channel 7 sports reporter Julie Donaldson, who said she was injured in an assault last month, testified yesterday that her boyfriend (Ivan Lattimore) threw her against a wall and punched her in the face.
These type of stories are so common in domestic abuse. Once the scars have healed does that mean that everything is fine. Certainly not. The mental scars quite often last a lifetime.
I think the real key in all of this is that the person who is on the receiving end of physical or mental abuse must come to terms with the facts that they did not deserve this abuse under any circumstances and they must not see themselves as a victim.
If you are experiencing feelings of low self worth, depression, apathy and an inability to recover from physical or mental abuse then you might want to check out Narcissism Abuse Recovery .
Let me know what you are thinking, because I am listening.
“Help For Breast Cancer”
June 18, 2008
Help for breast cancer: There are many different types of cancer, Woman all over the world check their breast regularly for breast symptoms to help with the breast cancer fight.Take a look at these breast statistics:
BREAST CANCER FACTS AND STATISTICS
In 2007, it was estimated that there would be 178480 new cases of breast cancer in women and 2030 new cases of breast cancer in men. Of these, an estimated 40460 women and 450 men will die from the disease …
I recently came across a book written by Carrie Sanders, M.A. Psychotherapist,
“The Breast Cancer Journey Planner”
A Book that Helps Women Navigate Through the Challenges of Breast Cancer.
This book provides crucial guidance and reveals the smart ways to organize and manage the many tasks that lay before a woman dealing with breast cancer.
“The Breast Cancer Journey Planner” assists women as they begin the journey of processing the overwhelming emotions that accompany the diagnosis and treatment and identifying emotional issues which at first, she may be unaware of.
Imagine that your doctor tells you that you have breast cancer. You are going to need serious medical attention. You need help to deal with the diagnosis, the treatment, and your overwhelming emotions. You look for help. What do you find? Utter confusion.
Carrie Sanders, a Bellevue, Washington psychotherapist has personal experience of the incredible difficulties that some people go through when they are given the diagnosis of cancer. She herself had cancer 20 years ago and has spent 17-years using her skills and discipline helping people cope with the formidable emotional and medical challenges.
By definition, secondary prevention refers to any modality that leads to the earlier detection of a breast cancer, thereby resulting in a potential decrease in mortality from the disease. Both breast examinations and screening …
This is a line that goes into a vein in your chest, the entrance to which sits just under your skin, right below your collarbone. It requires a quick surgery to put it in but, if you’re having a mastectomy for your breast
“Bully guide”
June 17, 2008
“Bully facts” are that “bully victims” can be anyone young or old, male or female, rich or poor, it can also happen anywhere, at work, school, neighborhoods. I hope this blog will give you ”bully help” with a “bully strategy guide” and hopefully show you ”how to stop bully”.
People experience mobile phone bullying, bullied for the clothes that they wear, trainers, schools that they attend, clubs that they frequent, football teams that they support. In-fact anything. A bully will find your vulnerabilities and use them against you. We now have an ‘Anti Bullying Day’ which is in February and we have an ‘Anti Bullying Week’ which is in November.
TOP FIVE TIPS TO AVOID BEING BULLIED How to recognize the signs of a bully and avoid them at all costs.
1. They say mean and nasty things about other people and often.
2. They always blame others for things that go wrong in their lives.
3. They show an astonishing lack of compassion for other people or creatures in distress.
4. They never apologize for mean or nasty things they say or do.
5. Stop being a victim- do your personal work.
What is bullying?…
- Punching, shoving and other acts that hurt people physically
- Spreading bad rumors about people
- Keeping certain people out of a “group”
- Teasing people in a mean way
- Getting certain people to “gang up” on others
Why do people bully?….
- Because they see others doing it
- Because it’s what you do if you want to hang out with the right crowd
- Because it makes them feel, stronger, smarter, or better than the person I’m bullying
- Because it’s one of the best ways to keep others from bullying them
If you have a history of being bullied or are actually being bullied, you have probably learned somewhere along the way that it was normal to be victimized. If this is a pattern for you and you find yourself constantly being victimized by bullies. I strongly suggest you go for counseling or psychotherapy with a therapist who will have solid experience in empowering people. Understanding the “source” of your vulnerability to bullies is the first step to stopping the bullying. Learning how to stand up for yourself and how to confront others in a healthy way through assertive training is the next.
Remember Bullies are not very nice people and they usually are very verbally abusive, so engaging in a healthy confrontation with such people is not realistic, wise, or productive.
Immediate strategies can sometimes be very effective:
Imagine the bully having an attack of diarrhoea or imagine them really small and you can stamp on them.
Watch this video it will give you an idea of what I mean….Warning! This video can be quite gory.
Good luck.
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